Monday, November 12, 2012

A Letter From Another Blogger: Pink Dryer Lint

A typical expression for me. My Cali cousin calls it "The Kid From Home Alone Face."

 So, this weekend I was on Pinterest and came across this pin which just SPOKE to me. 

They were the right words at the right time. So, I thought I would share them with you, too.

PS: The "letter" was written by Robin Kramer, author of the blog Pink Dryer Lint.

PPS: AS I was posting this blog, I was also getting dressed, grading papers, and helping our kids make scrambled eggs/ham. Turns out I didn't learn a dang thing from this letter (yet): I burned the eggs!


Dear Woman Who Is Trying to Do It All:

Please stop.

I could end my letter at this point, but I fear that two words wouldn't be enough to convince you.  I know this because I'm one of you.  I'm a feet-hit-the-floor-already-running, head-hit-the-pillow-still-thinking kind of a girl.

It's hard to slow down when
so much needs to be done, and "so much" needs to be done too much of the time.  To-do lists taunt you, full email inboxes glare at you, full laundry baskets call to you, and full dishwashers irritate you.  You sweep the floors, pay the bills, make the beds, change the diapers, pick up the toys, fix the meals, sign the permission forms, schedule the appointments, say yes to the committees, and meet the deadlines.  You grade the papers, balance the spreadsheets, sew the patterns, watch the neighbor's kids, and teach the classes.  You don't bother to sit down when you eat lunch.

When you've found your stride and have all cylinders firing, you think to yourself,
I'm a machine.  When you're floundering, you simply sleep less, try harder, and pull yourself up by your bootstraps because it's what you do.

You keep afloat.  You always have.

But, one more thing always can be added to already-full schedules, and one more thing often
is added.  When there doesn't feel as if there's a moment to spare in your overflowing days, the unexpected phone call feels like a burden.  The unplanned inconvenience escalates to a crisis.  The child who wants you to read another book suddenly becomes a hurdle to overcome in a long string of duties.  If you allow yourself even one moment to reflect, you acutely feel the hollowness of such a full, yet empty, existence. 

You might not know whether to snap or to cry or to lie despondently on the couch eating Oreos, but you do know one thing:
you can't sustain this pace.

Dear, dear woman who tries to do it all, can I please share something that I'm slowly and painfully learning? 
You never were intended to do it all.

We are human beings, not doers.  We desperately need time to be. 
Just be.

There never will be an end to work; we
always could do more.  In the face of the work that needs to be done, rest seems superfluous.  Yet rest is where we gain strength to work to our fullest when work is called for.

Don't give your greatest strength to the things which matter the least.  Don't let the seemingly urgent demands yank your attention away from the things, and especially the people, who are most important.  Unwashed dishes in the sink sometimes can wait.  Unhugged children cannot.

So, dear woman is trying to do it all:
please stop.  Not forever.  Just for as long as you need to be able to hear your own thoughts, loosen your tense shoulders, and remember the surprising joy that can come from even a day that's otherwise unproductive.

Be still and know that you are
not God.  Rest in the sweet realization that although you can do a great deal, you never were intended to do it all.


A Woman Who's Learning That She Can't Do It All